Tell Tale Signs of Lying?

The TV show is wonderful - if only because it has nudged people into (finally) paying attention to the behavior of the people they talk to. So many of our clients over the years had totally missed this point. The guy in front of you is telling you by his actions whether he believes you or is even listening to you.

• If he doesn't believe you, he'll curl a lip or suck on the inside of his lips to show contempt. He'll also move his eyes downward and move them back and forth. When he does that, he's talking to himself, then testing how he feels about it, then talking to himself some more and then retesting his feelings.

• If he has stopped listening, he'll be non-responsive. His eyes will defocus. When people are not focused on anything specific, they tend to get diverted by something bright or anything that moves. So, the guy who is not listening to you will likely display that by looking away from you - watching a car go by or a bird fly past or just out a window.

The TV show make it seem like anyone who twists a wedding band is telling you a lie. That's baloney. It is a sign of something, probably discomfort. Then, it's your job to figure out what is causing that discomfort.

The point is, pay attention, notice anything that moves on the person's body or face and figure out what it means. Is it a good sign or a red flag.

Our area of expertise is the face. We can read personality types, values and communication style in faces. We can also read internal mental/emotional turmoil. So can you. Having trouble with a boss, co-worker or client? Got a boyfriend or girlfriend or spouse you can't figure out? We can help.

If you're starting to get interested in reading people, you need to buy our book Face Values. It is the most important book you can find on reading people.

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-- Michael Lovas